In November of 2015, my wife suffered a traumatic brain injury which has left me as her caregiver along with being a father of 3. Emily and I were married in 2010, and I instantly became a Dad to Alex and Leah. We added Herbie in February 2011. As I look back, I don't think I was putting in much of a fatherly effort. I left too much of the responsibilty to Emily, who was also working full time. I stayed at home with Herbie and made sure he was taken care of, but that's about it.
After Emily's accident, something inside of me was awakened. I all of the sudden wanted to be a better husband and father for these 4 people who were counting on me. For four months I was at Emily's side at the Hospital each and every day, while also spending a few hours of quality time with the kids and trying my best to help them through things as well. Once we were able to get Emily home and our lives got back into a routine, I new I had to do more for our kids while at the same time, caring for Emily throughout her recovery.
Back in 2007, I was in an accident of my own. I was single with no kids and almost lost my life. In fact, most people who rupture their Aorta in a car accident do not survive, I was lucky. My accident left me in a wheelchair, walker and finally to a cane. I've had several medical issues since, including back problems, problems with my feet and more. I would say I felt a bit sorry for myself and I allowed Emily to do far too much when it came to taking care of the house and the kids.
I now know I am everything a Dad should be to Alex, Leah and Herbie. I cook their meals, I clean their laundry and toilets, I am their driver, I help with homework, I am their counselor, coach and at times referee. I am now involved with their PTA and on top of what they are doing in school.
It is amazing and unfortunate that my wife's accident has made me a better Dad, but I think we all have it within ourselves to be better. Don't let an unfortunate event bring it out of you.